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Living a happy, healthy and prosperous life isn’t going to just magically happen. Achieving success and feeling fulfilled will take work and intention on your part. Here are a few simple truths which experts believe many people could benefit from understanding.
An introduction does not make a relationship
Janice Bryant Howroyd, in her book Acting Up: Winning in Business and Life Using Down-Home Wisdom, says you’re a “relationship thief” if you use someone’s good relationship with someone you want to know to get an introduction, and then assume you can have the same level of relationship as the other two people have. She says it’s insulting to think that a trusting relationship which may have taken a decade to develop can be duplicated with a brief introduction. When it comes to making introductions, she suggests first asking why the individual wants the introduction to the third person. Then, coach the person who wants the introduction by spelling out that the introduction is just that — he or she will need to build their own relationship with the third person who is not up for immediate solicitation of a favor. “[W]hen that person tries to invoke a level of relationship with someone that they have not earned, it becomes uncomfortable for the person I introduced them to,” she writes. “And that reflects poorly on me.”
Multitasking wastes time
Plenty of studies have proven this, says Dan Schawbel in his book Back to Human: How Great Leaders Create Connection in the Age of Isolation. While it might feel as if you’re getting three times as much done if you’re checking email and updating your status while sitting in a conference call, in reality your brain can only do one thing at a time. “When we shift from the conference call to the status update to the email, there’s a stop-and-start process in our brains that causes a momentary lag between steps when nothing happens at all,” he writes. “Bottom line, instead of doing three tasks at once to the full extent of your ability, you’re doing three tasks poorly.”