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How to Get Better at Almost Anything

How to Get Better at Almost Anything!

By Marshall Goldsmith

For several years, I’ve performed what some might consider an unusual daily ritual.

At a pre-arranged time, I get a phone call from a person who I have hired solely for the purpose of listening to me report my scores on a brief self-test. The questions, which I wrote myself, function as a simple checklist of my main priorities. For instance, have I done my best to exercise, set goals, have positive interactions with others, etc. My caller listens politely, records my scores, and then we hang up.

What’s the purpose of this self-rating? This process, which I call the “daily questions,” keeps me focused on becoming a happier, healthier person. It provides the discipline I sorely need in my chaotic working life as an executive coach, teacher and speaker, which involves traveling 180 days out of the year to countries all over the globe. And, it helps me get better at almost everything!

At the seminars I teach, I encourage students to try this for themselves by writing their own questions.

Most of them are eager to participate. When I encounter a skeptic, he or she usually asks why I need to pay another person to remind me of such simple things – the list even includes whether I flossed my teeth. Shouldn’t I, a fully functional adult, remember to do that on my own?

Of course I should, and so should we all, but simple, daily behaviors are among the hardest things about our lives to control or change. Taken together, they can make the difference between a life well lived and a life gone hopelessly off course.

Perhaps because our culture lionizes willpower and independence, most of us believe that we aren’t supposed to need help with these fundamentals. Instead, we tend to believe help is warranted only for difficult, complex problems. From this perspective, the daily questions seem pointless at best. Why take a test for which I wrote the questions and to which I already know the answers? Not only that, I merely ask whether I’ve done my best to do achieve my goals – that’s a pretty soft standard. The only scale of success is, “Did I try?”

It sounds too easy. But after years of dedication to this process, I now hold the counterintuitive belief that the daily questions are in fact a very tough test, one of the hardest we’ll ever take.

At the moment, I have 29 daily questions. There is no correct number. It’s a personal choice, a function of how many issues you want to work on. Some of my clients have only three or four questions.

The first 13 of my questions ask whether I did my best to address a particular behavioral change or interpersonal challenge. For example, did I do my best to avoid angry or destructive comments? Did I do my best to find meaning in my work? The remaining 16 cover professional and personal self-discipline issues like how much sleep I got, how many minutes I devoted to writing, and whether I am up-to- date on my doctor appointments.

The daily work of behavioral change, which can do so much to re-orient our lives for the better, might seem overwhelming. The people we know we can be, the people we once dreamed of becoming, can recede ever farther as we try to stay afloat in our daily routines. We feel dissatisfied, and dissatisfaction slides easily into bitterness. Once the chance to make a change has passed, our bitterness solidifies into regret.

Think of the daily questions as a pragmatic antidote to those darker emotions. Put your goals on paper, or an excel spreadsheet. Measure every day, “Did I do my best to…?” Your problems won’t disappear but you will exist in a different relation to them and you will improve. You are now the agent of change and prepared to get better at anything!

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The 6 Daily Questions

It’s Not What You Say It’s How You Say It!

By Marshall Goldsmith

Asking ourselves active questions rather than passive questions changes the focus of our answers and empowers us to make changes that we wouldn’t otherwise consider.

And, it’s not what you ask but how you ask it!

In my work as an executive coach, I teach people about the importance of self-reflection as a daily practice to changing behavior and becoming more successful. This daily practice that I teach, as you may know, comes in the form of the Daily Questions. I do this process myself every day and it has made a world of difference in my behavior!

When it comes to self-reflection, I’ve discovered that asking ourselves active questions rather than passive questions changes the focus of our answers and empowers us to make changes that we wouldn’t otherwise consider.

Let’s take me for example. If I ask myself, “Do I have good relationships at work?” or “How engaged was

I today?” I am asking myself passive questions. These passive questions describe a static condition. They cause me to think of what is being done to me rather than what I am doing for myself.

Let’s analyze my first question, “Do I have good relationships at work?” If the answer is yes, I think about how I like to work with someone. If the answer is no, I think about what I don’t like about another person that makes it a bad working relationship. Either answer is an “environmental” answer. The reasons attributed to either answer are external factors. Answering such passive questions, seldom cause me to look within to take responsibility for my own relationships at work.

Now, let’s change this question to an active question, such as “Did I do my best to build positive relationships at work?” This question challenges me to describe or defend my actions with regards to
whether or not I did my best to build positive relationships that day. It puts the responsibility for my relationships at work squarely on me. If positive relationships at work are important to me and I ask
myself this question every day, I will start doing my best to build positive relationships! (In other words, I will get better!)

I have six active questions that I ask myself. These six questions are the first of the 32 daily questions that I ask myself every day. These 6 questions are:

  1. Did I do my best to increase my happiness?

  2. Did I do my best to find meaning?

  3. Did I do my best to be engaged?

  4. Did I do my best to build positive relationships?

  5. Did I do my best to set clear goals?

  6. Did I do my best to make progress toward goal achievement?

The Daily Questions Process has made a huge difference in my life and everyone who tries the process agrees that it is immensely helpful in the journey toward changed behavior.

I hope that you will try this process for yourself! If you would like my Daily Questions, send me an email at marshall@marshallgoldsmith.com and I would be happy to send you my questions and an article about the process. I hope to hear from you!

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Empathy

Improving Empathy at Work: 20 Tips for Success

Improving your ability to empathize is an important skill to develop in the workplace. Despite the fact that 98% of all people have the physical ability to empathize, many people find it difficult–especially while on the job.

Lack of empathy in the workplace has shown to negatively impact productivity, lead to conflicts with colleagues, and damage your reputation at the office. It’s always more pleasant when everyone at work gets along, so honing these skills is imperative.

Research shows that consumers prefer to work with brands that understand their needs. In fact, 42% of people won’t do business with a company they feel is not empathetic. Brand image starts from within, so having a culture of understanding and empathy is key.

If you or your employees struggle with empathy in the workplace, they can try these empathy boosters like traveling to new locations, learning new skills, reading emotionally-driven books, or engaging in philosophical conversations.

To learn even more about how important empathy in the workplace is and learn more tips, check out this visual from GetCRM below.

These tips will help you be more empathetic at work and build better relationships with your colleagues and clients alike.

You’ll be amazed by how much of a difference smiling more or using your coworker’s name can make—simple actions like these will make you seem more empathic at work.

Whether you’re interacting with a colleague, friend, or even an angry customer—showing empathy will help you build better relationships in all facets of your life.

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Businessolver | SAGE | Autism Research Centre


Originally published at getcrm.com

 

Compassion

How Compassionate are you towards Others ?

With so many self-help tools and research aimed at helping us be more joyful, it’s pretty obvious that the pursuit of happiness is in vogue — but what’s the best way to get there?

The Dalai Lama once said, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. ” His remarks capture a simple truth: Despite popular belief that happiness depends solely on you, the way to achieve it may not lie just within yourself, but in your relationships and interactions with others.

 “When we have feelings of caring or love for other people, we feel better,” clinical psychologist Lisa Firestone, Ph.D., tells The Huffington Post. “We all think we want to be loved, but what actually feels good to us is feeling loving — and part of what makes us feel more love for other people is doing kind, compassionate things for them.”
The good news is, if you don’t normally identify as someone who is overly empathetic, studies show it’s a habit that can be cultivated. So how can you tell if you are or not?
This test finds out how sensitive you are to other’s emotions and how well you can gauge feelings or emotions which might be left unsaid.