Like Delegation /Abdication , another pair of words we confuse interchangeably is : Aggressiveness & Assertiveness …. They are not the same .
o Aggression is more to do more with the person , Assertion is exhibited more in the matter
o Aggressiveness is more constitutional … a personal trait , Assertiveness is more in practice & can be acquired
o Loss of discretion is mostly concurrent with display of aggression , whereas assertion is a more conscious practice
o Since it is an impulsive act , chances of regret is higher in case of aggression , not as much so with being assertive . In a rather loose manner I can say that Assertion mixed with emotion / passion becomes Aggression .
Like any other emotion , exercise of aggression by choice / with awareness can be very effective ; it is when we lose our awareness ( which is mostly the case )in exercising emotion is when we often make a mistake . Emotion is like a horse …. Whether the animal works for us or takes us into the wilderness , depends on whether we are riding the horse or vice versa .
o Idea here is not to attach a prescriptive label of Good / Bad to either of these two words ; it is just that we need to be well aware of what is what & when , how it will work for us
It is my experiential assertion that contrary to popular misconception ; to be effective , you don’t need to be aggressive , just being assertive will help .
There is nothing bad or wrong about being aggressive in nature ; one just needs to be conscious that it is a part of you and how / when to use as a resource to his / her advantage .
o More importantly if you are not naturally aggressive , putting up artificially doesn’t work … like a good fashion , it works only when you know how to carry it off . You are at your best , only when you play yourself , not as someone else you are not .